Stop. Take a Breath. Start again.

Happy New Year Y’All!!!

If you’re anything like me, around the turn of the year you’ll start to get introspective.

Really introspective.

Maybe not so introspective that your brain starts looking over its shoulder because it feels like it’s being watched.






(This may, or may not, actually, be my brain…)

And, if you’re anything like me, you start making lists. I *Love* making lists.

To do lists

Lists of things I want to do

Lists of things I have to do

Lists of things that I want to change

Lists of lists

I want to go back a step and talk about that list of things I want to change. Around the turn of the year, this is a really popular list. It seems like everybody’s got one. I won’t call them “Resolutions” because, now-a-days, everybody expects those to fail, and you don’t want to be stacking the deck against yourself.

So you’ve got some goals.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve taken all that introspection-





(Not now, brain)

-and you’ve made a list of goals. This list is probably grand and glorious. You’ve pictured your ideal self and condensed it into five, or ten…or fifteen…things that if you could only change, you’d be *GOLDEN*. I mean, the force will *really* be with you.

And you can pull it off.

If you’re anything like me, come January first, you’re unstoppable. You have, literally, a mountain of willpower.





Behold, my mountain of willpower!  Gaze upon my plans for 2017, ye mighty, and despair….

And, if you’re anything like me, in a couple of weeks (Right about now, as a matter of fact) your mountain of willpower looks more like:





Behold my….um…my stone of….of…

Oh, to hell with it. Just try not to trip on it or something. Where can I find some pie, or wine, or pie and wine*?

That’s what I want to focus on. That point where it feels like the mountain has been ground down to a stone.

That feeling is resistance. That feeling is good because it means that you’re doing something that will, ultimately, be awesome for you and resistance doesn’t want you doing it. Resistance wants the same old things. Resistance is the grass that’s growing up around the edges of the stone, trying to swallow it down.

Unlike the stone, you can fight the grass. You can rise above the grass in exactly the way that stones don’t.

You do it in steps.

Keep the lists**, but I would suggest that you focus on what’s in front of you, not the whole list at once. You can’t eat an elephant in one bite***, a journey of a million words begins with, well, beginning.

I admit it: For me, 2017 has gotten off to a rocky start. It’s limped along so badly that my brain has started sending me subtle hints in my sleep****about how I need to get back on the ball.

This is how I’m going to do that: Stop, take a breath, and start again.

I’ve been focusing on the whole list. And there’s been flailing*****

Stop, take a breath, and start again.

One step at a time. Focus on the thing in front of you and *do* that thing. Then move onto the next thing.

That’s how I’m going to get there. That’s how you can get there.

I realize that it’s going to take work. Nothing worthwhile doesn’t require some kind of work. Starting again is vastly different than starting over. Starting again is picking up where you left off, maybe going in a new direction, maybe not, but you’re not losing that forward momentum.

It will be hard, but it will be worth it.


Take a breath.

Start again.

Good Luck!


*There is nothing wrong with pie, or wine, or pie and wine…in moderation. There is everything wrong with pie and whine…

**Yeah, you’ll be pulling those out of my cold, dead hands…


****Subtlety, thy name is:





*****Not the muppet-arm kind….

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